TIPS on the Importance of RSVP

I get invited to events all the time and generally I RSVP if I know for sure I’m going to attend.  If I’m unsure, I will likely not RSVP and VERY seldom do I RSVP and then back out of attending.

Being in the wedding/event industry, I know the importance of an RSVP and 9 times out of 10 the host bases the count of food, desserts and drinks on the amount of people that have RSVP’d for an event.  So for instance if 30 people out of the 200 who have RSVP’d do not show up on the day of the event, that is 30 people worth of food, drinks, etc. wasted because that money was spent on the individuals who the host thought would attend the event.

With that being said, I thought I would share tips on the importance of RSVP by Emily Post.

The Continuing Importance of RSVP | by Emily Post

No one is obligated to accept an invitation or to explain the reasons for not accepting.  Nor will anyone come running to your door and demand that you finally reply to that invitation that has been sitting on your coffee table for three weeks.  However, just as someone is being kind when inviting you to an event, you should be just as kind to reply to their invitation. To help you determine the proper etiquette for the RSVP, we’ve included a couple of important tips:

1. Take your cue from the invitation

If you received your invitation by e-mail, then an e-mailed response is acceptable.  If the invitation is to a wedding and includes an enclosed card, then send your response by mail.  You can judge the required response by the formality of the invitation itself.

2. Respond in a timely fashion

Generally it is best to reply as soon as possible.  For written invitations responses are made within several days of receiving the invitation.  For in-person or phoned invitations, you may provide your response when asked or await until you have checked your schedule. Simply let the person know that you will call as soon as possible.

3. Keep replies brief

There is no need to go into great detail if you must decline the invitation. Write a simple and polite note of regret.  If you feel like you must offer an explanation, be sure it is brief.

4. Reply even if you have a potential conflict

If you would like to accept an invitation to an informal or casual event but have a tentative conflict, contact the host or hostess to explain the problem. If the event is formal, however, your delay might inconvenience the host, so it’s best to decline the invitation.

5. When replies aren’t requested

If the invitation does not specifically request that you RSVP, then a response is not necessary. However, it is always polite to notify the host when you cannot attend.  A phone call will usually suffice, though you might send a personal note or an e-mail.

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I love Emily Post’s rules on etiquette and have her book next to bed that I read often, Emily Post’s Essentials – Everyday Etiquette by Peggy Post.  Sometimes we need to be reminded, including myself. Until next time…


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